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When you're single, you have the tendency to have an imaginary view of what marriage must be like. Because of this, you end up longing for a relationship. Kind of like the story of Cinderella- looking for a prince and a "happily ever after".
Here are four myths that Christian singles have concerning marriage:
Myth #1: Marriage is the only God-ordained lifestyle.
God's preference is not always that people get married. You can have a fulfilled life as a single person. During Bible times, the Jewish culture taught that it was a sin for men to not be married by the age of 20.
Paul's response to this is...
1 Corinthians 7:7-8 — I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 — I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
Myth #2: The grass is greener on the other side of the matrimonial fence.
Most single people rush into marriage thinking life will be better if they are married. If you're single and rush marriage, you quickly learn that life is good and bad no matter what side of the fence you're on. There's no promise in scripture that life is better after marriage. Marriage is awesome, but it still takes work. The grass is greener where you water it.
Myth #3: My life + Somebody Else = Happiness.
Singles are pressed all the time with, "Who are you dating? When are you getting married?". Our culture is obsessed with putting pressure on singles to get married.
True contentment can only come from Jesus Christ! It doesn't depend on anyone else. This goes for married people as well.
Philippians 4:11-13 — Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Myth #4: Singleness produces loneliness, while marriage produces intimacy.
Some people think that if you're single or alone, that you're lonely. And that if you're married, you're not. There are many singles out there who are not lonely, and many married people who are very lonely.
The key to this is to understand that no one person is designed to meet your deepest needs. A spouse can meet a lot of personal needs, but only Jesus can meet our deepest needs.
If you're a Christian, God will never leave you!
Hebrews 13:5 — Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Marriage is awesome, being single is awesome. Both are God's gifts.
We need to learn to be content in whatever circumstance we are in.
As a single person, the Bible says you should celebrate your singleness by serving and living for Him!
Based on Pastor Peppy's sermon, "Celebrating Singleness", compiled by Cassie Ford.